Unfortunately we are all going to have to deal with this gal for the next 18 years if we want our grandson in our lives, we have no idea how to accomplish this on a regular basis? add the text only communication into the parenting agreement. I am now divorce for a yr now.. from a 14yr marriage. But today my husband and all my family are happy again. I was married to a narcissist for 10 years and we had three children together. Its amazing to find posts like these. Daughter says she dont think its over but that was before I sent the text to come get his shit; he hasnt responded but if he does, Im ignoring him. She knew everything about me and at first, literally flowered me.. made me feel so special and wanted. Thanks to a spell caster called High Priest OLORUN which i met online. mine broke up with me, but asked me to redesign her tramp stamp tattoo, and if she could still come by for sex since she was so aggressive she didnt attract any males at the moment. He asked me if I was single; I said yes. Ju gets very upset with me when I bring my ex in the pic and that day, I called him to visit my son at the hospital. Im praying for u. Melanie Your story is my life. Some break up after a short fling of two to three weeks. Within 3 years, he was back and encouraged me to sell my home and move in with him then he sold his house and I purchased a condo where we lived common law for 3 years until he again was tired of me. Karen .every detail of your story is almost exactly like mine.25 long lonely hurtful and degrading years I was married to a man who showed no concern for my well being .after he left me for the 3rd affair I chose not to take him back..my god the night mare of divorce .my eldest son was completely brainwashed as were friends and family.my eldest daughter and youngest son stayed by my side.the worst part of my story is after suffering such torment through those years you would think I would recognise the signs of an abusive man.I ended up jumping from the frying pan into the fire and had a 5 year on and off relationship with a man who in many ways was more emotional abusive than my ex husband.these type of men pray on woman freshly separated or divorced.I see now how vitally important it is to find the strength and take as much as is needed to receive professional help.so as to reflect and heal before contemplating any relationship .my involvement with these 2 men almost killed me by my own hand.my self esteem self worthmy identity were crushed I was stumbling through life numbing the confusion and shame that was inflicted on me day in and day out by these men with drugs and alcohol.I am now well on the way to recovery.for the first time in over 30 years I can look myself in a mirror and say I am proud of me and this is my life to live my son now speaks to me.it has been a long hard journey for not just me but my children as well..I am proud to say they are all loving and well adjusted adults now.I may be 50 this year but this is the begining of my life . The narcissist can go for weeks without speaking to you, with the implication being that you need them more than they need you. I couldnt imagine how easy it was for him to simply throw himself into work and go on with his life. He is gone this time But others say he will be back I am seeking a therapist. 2023 BDG Media, Inc. All rights reserved. Its not enough that he takes them on my Christmas time but that he eats up my very own days also?? All will be fine! Thats not to say no contact is a bad idea though; if communication continued after you broke up with them, they would almost certainly lure you back in. After 20 years of marriage to an N, I have been emotionally exhausted. Simply contact the great Dr.Mack If you have any problem contact him and i guarantee you that he will help you., Thank you Dr Mack for saving my broken relationships and brought my boyfriend back to me! email him at: dr.mack201@ gmail. Ive read these stories what do you do if its a married narc that want leave you alone but is still married. to love yourself enough to stop comprimising your sanity. So, I shall grieve the loss of the dream rather than the loss of my cowboy. I became anxious and nervous and paranoid to what he was doing and were he was. But maybe Im wrong, maybe he will contact me at some point. At one point I really believed that I was married to Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. My mother & older sister are narcs. Hi, yes, why would someone who is happy with their new girlfriend try to call and be in contact, to show that oh they are so happy now and she is so better. He controlled everything. HELP! I am also an avid blogger with a keen interest in spirituality, astrology and self development. Her self esteem is lacking and she has depression and has had suicidal ideations more than once.. So what this artical states and others if a man tries to fight to get his partner back he is a narcissist but if he tries to move on and show no hurt he is also a narcissist. I wish I left years ago he is worse than ever and now doing drugs which make him more volatile and abusive. Thankyou for everyones comments i have been the a really difficult time i met a man i loved he put me threw hell i never from one day till the next what he was going to do or say he played me for a fool.. Ben strong its lonely being single but use that time to research heal and love urself your son needs a health happy content mum. My brother was discarded in a terrible way by his gf. Eight years not an interest at all in dating or meeting another man I was already strong independent and in control and anice person Than. Once I had proof, I discovered he wasnt just having an affair but had got this girl pregnant. And try not to fear anything I know thats nearly impossible though. Is that what it takes? When he came back I would be so hurt, I made him stay out for another day or three. Even so, he & wife reconciled and he continued to stray. And selfish he will do anything to get what he wants. Feed me all this crap s perfect say. He started calling and texting every day and night. I became resentful and tried talking to him that the relationship is in trouble. I myself had been diagnosed codependent many years before along with having a very Trumatic childhood in some areas . I know im to be blamed to keep him after all i knew but he actually manipulated me. Reading Suggestion: How To Make a Narcissist Miss You? Always saying I was sexy, too shallow for me. Everything was so perfect and good between us. Stay away. If so, then hopefully I will not hear from my ex again. She kept telling me that SHE is part of the family, i.e. He still sends a message here and there to check the waters. Do the right thing and look after her. He had come home that night to get all of his stuff and leave permanently. This is only the tip of the iceberg! Id hide the ongoing relationship and thought if Id change I could make this work. You described how they are perfectlyor should I say how perfect they think they are. At this point there is nothing left. For the past two years, I moved to a new place and lived on my own with my son. When I would try to leave he would tell me I was a horrible mother. Get the hell out. As unfortunately I paid a hell of a price for it. I also have memories of being that guy when she moved across the country to be with him. Like she hasn't answered in months and the last text I sent her is 2 weeks ago. He always blew me off as if the topic wasnt important. So. He told me he would take me ring shopping and we would settle down and have a baby together. Well teach you to fall asleep. This was still in the honeymoon/dating phase. If you dont give the narcissist what they want after the breakup (i.e. Thanks again for the insight. He was not unfaithful, and I do believe its because he wont be with just anyone. So. Not during my important work projects. I told him that I never ever wanted to see him or speak with him again. Not to take hurting immediatly to new heights after youve given a chance and blame it onto the other. I cooked (Im a personal chef), kept his clothes clean and acted as his gofer in the course of his trucking business and he was very generous, never demanding I find full time employment. I told him flat out that he was not separated, what he was cheating and he got angry. 1. I than realized that his daily and nightly calls constant was his way of controlling me and see what I was up too. I then I hear nothing. I cut him off for a couple of months but then got weak when he sent me a pic of a key chain I had bought him. and send his picture. You're unappreciative of all they have done for you. Its funny how everyone who meets him thinks he is gay. Well he never saw our son until he was 8 months old. I never asked anything from him. Be very very careful!! Hong long does it take for a Narcissist to come back? For weeks not a word I feel heart broken. We were divorced a year before I actually realized it was for REAL. Now, hell have it back and he can leave me alone. Once money is here i will buy the cowries and go straight to the cemetery and deposit it there, and you will start seeing changes that same day, even within three hours i promise because that spirits instant result like the speed of light. The. One, he had a restraining order against. After thinking I had found the love of my life then being discarded abruptly 7 mo. After baby was born, she instantly started using the child as a weapon against our son. I moved out but have not done No Contact until very recently. Oh just needed time to think. And I know I have to let go break contact. All of it. The solution? The absolute indifference to me after I moved for him was nothing short of emotional devastation for me. prior to relinquishing yourself to another after going through this Its comparable to being imprisoned for many years and then being set free. Lazy. This is how you treat my gifts ! Both . Folks, whether men or women, these people (?) Theyre comfortable in your toxic relationship, so its always easier to come back rather than find someone new. It took me a few months of reading articles and blogs to realize what a monster he is. My god. Long distance relationship, we went on holiday and on the 3rd day found out he was hiding a serious STD from me!! Want to know more? She managed to turn all my family (who happen to not even have known her very well) against me, I lost them all, but had to get out at all cost if not for my great friends and support at the community church I would have lost the battle in this world for good Guess what, after 3 years she now contacted me again, I feel desperate to go fix things, but that will land me back in a world of pain and of course, she used my sister to get hold of me again, and apparently they are best friends. Please help with any advice you can offer. My whole life has transformed to the negative because of him. They seek to control you and destroy what?? Out of nowhere he surprisingly left me to be with another girl, so i met a friend who gave me this Tel +1 (971)-512-6745) of this spell caster Robinson, he stays in USA, so contacted him because i was so heartbroken and dont know what to do with myself but after 3 days of contacting Mr Robinson , my lover came back to me. remember he will hurt Ur child but you got to do this smart remain calm on meeting let him try and do his condescending tactics do not accept anything you know isnt true heres another thing of he makes an accusation whether true or false and you know he has no evidence learn to say you know thats not true reason Im saying this is narcs are pros at using and twisting were all human mistakes happen but he wont let it go down that route and lavare looking at what is in child best interest n they will take the child if they view u as unstable or unsafe behaviour. Anyway, so I tried to talk to his mother, she was NOT hearing anything. We found that people who scored higher on narcissistic admiration the charming, admiration-seeking side of narcissism were more likely to have initiated the breakup and cite their lack of interest in the relationship as a cause for the breakup. I know too well due to my reaction however I used tools to SHOW changes and accountability bcuz la had evidence but after that I was very careful around him but I recorded him used text based evidence by the time he figured it out it was too late I still felt bad but thats bcuz we have empthay Im slowly going to pull his contact away. I did everything for him whenever he needed help with something, I love him so much and cared about him a lot. old. No matter how, how he got here realize that your child is innocent and the only one deserving of your love and admiration at this time. I ended the relationship by filing for divorce, but co-parenting and visitation prevent me from having NO CONTACT. We have 2 young children together, a 1 yr old and a 3 mo. By the grace of god I went to college for 12 years and have a great career .i let him back in our lives 6 years ago as he convinced me he had found god. Narcissists dont have a timetable, they only have alternate sources of supply. Begins the cycle again. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. They may have found a new source of supply but had a falling out with them and now they need something from you. Sad but true. Trouble set in again within approximately 6 years and he insisted I leave (which I did). And saying things like you like this. A day or two after we met, he asked me about going to a vacation in the Caribbean. The next day, on the way home and all day at work, it was all I could think of. Greetings to every body that is reading this testimony. And threatening me that my new girlfriend will eventually desert me from my sons One of my son started having sympathy for her probably because he is left living with her. But its so hard and I really dont want to. Somehow, he felt, unsafe? He would leave for days/ weeks. He was always watching p**n when not at work or when interacting with family and friends. However, that alone would most likely destroy you so either way youre stuck. She told me alot about him and hed told her alot about me which most Im sure were lies. He completely withdrew and has done nothing to get back to me. It is terrible. I was in a 2 year relationship with an amazing man. As I struggling with heartbreak right now, I am enlightened and encouraged by this article. How it proceeds is based on the narcissists needs and how willing you are to fulfill those needs. These are all things that can help you build a case about his character if he goes as far as pushing for custody of the child. This mom has sent him to visits with dirty clothes on, not appropriate clothing for the weather, not started ANY solid foods as yet (8 months!) At least not in an empathetic, normal, human type of way. Narcissists usually dont have lasting relationships though, so theres a good chance youll be seeing them again when the next one fails. He will contact you once he sees you have moved on. He bought her a new car hoping she would sleep with him, when she did not he got mad. I keep our communication to 96 % text and I save all correspondences as he is every 3-6 months threatening to take me to court for one thing or another. BTW, he demanded that i go back to him in a letter.Tried to tell me that it was all my fault, I was really messing up by leaving! Im going to put a different spin on this. Often the narcissist will act hurt, as if they dont understand why the breakup occurred in the first place. Pointed a gun at him. Some people have had to get retraining orders, to keep people away, do what you have to.They dont always give up so easily, most dont. He claimed to be with his family. He had been playing this game of hide and seek for months and he didnt even seem to care how much it hurt me. lets get some equality on the situation , I just recently had a very intense 3 mth relationship with someone I truly believe had NPD. I really dont know what to do. No I need my keys so I ge them back Im covered in my own blood everywhere The cops come. Lack of emotional empathy: This means that they do not feel your pain. Narcissists thrive on your confusion because it gives them control over whats true. And I start to find out about the cheating more and more. Theres not really a playbook for how things go after a breakup with a narcissist. It can inhabit both male and female bodies. And it is hard, but so necessary as I saw him gettun g worse and worse. less than 6 months after he left. A baby is a baby, I personally had no clue what was transpiring yet. While a fight can eventually lead to a resolution, nothing is ever solved by the silent treatment. I believed. Today is my day two of NC with her but this time, I feel like I am guilty of hiding that pic and I feel I betrayed her. And feel worthless He starts lieing aboth where hes at taking off. In fact, they're more likely to enjoy it. We spent a lot of time talking at first (maybe I did too much talking as my past was used against me during the end stage); he was still married after I dont know how many years of separation during which time he strayed outside the marriage several times and had a child out of wedlock. For those of you who keep falling back into their clutches, please keep reading on line. I talked to him about selling my belongings and it was the first time I saw crocodile tears. If you think that she wont change, do you feel as though I should become a narcissist? Call blocking and my last text. We also found that breakups may be tough for those who are high in narcissistic rivalry. .. 32 years of hell. This has gone on now for this period of time, in the mean time I worked very hard on focusing on my own life. Prayers please. So .I must have healed enough to handle this better. 2.) get yourself therapy join groups or talk about the abuse to trusted people or supports libe to let steam out. She was allegedly in a relationship, but they began taking trips, going places in public, switching cars. I felt violated. SHe never did anything for me and I changed my entire life to suit her. However the guilt somehow is eating me up. Uh. I was already over it. I pray for your strength. I idealized her hard. I found a powerful elixir maker called Metodo Acamu Online during a 4 months period she was living with her boss. God will help you. I say that now he divorced me I was his 3rd wifeI was suckered into the same trap as others in the reading. I pray to god and my mom to give me strength when i feel weak. We have lost loads of sleep worrying already and legitimately fear what is to become. This I know because anytime I think back to just before she entered my life or I read over the beginning of what Ive documented over the years, I truly struggle with believing I was that fairly warm hearted, trusting, compassionate guy who shared a fair amount of his time and energy with the community. He filed for divorce, he wouldnt/didnt move out of the house, he closed all accts and left me with no financial support, despite our having three children living in the home, etc. And BTW, there were other supplies available during troubled times, I just chose to forgive and forget after the honeymoon period started up again. I stayed with a N for 9 years while he did everything he cd to destroy the relationship I had with my young son from my marriage. Well. No remorse. I say yes. I knew that he had others, even dangerous liaisons . Am Lilly from Texas USA i want to share my great experience to the whole world about how i got my lover back to my arms after we departed for 4 years i never taught that i could have him back in my life until i met this great man named Dr MAXI OWOLABI who showed me true powers of spell, Me and Larry Broke up 4 years ago ever since i have not been my self although i have been in several relationship i have not seen who is as good as Larry, so ever since i have been thinking about him, so i had to tell my friend about how i feel for Larry that i wish if i can have him back to my arms, so that was when my friend told me that she was reading a love review the other day when she saw how somebody commented on how she got her lover back with the help of a man named Dr MAXI OWOLABI. I took it very lightly. OMG Michele he is pure evil. This person does not have a soul. Things can only work out in your relationship only if you give chance to the right person to assist you. I live in those 2 rooms. They of course, believed their dad as he was very convincing to them and of course as you know kids are impressionable. I could have died birthing my son due to my condition. He sent reams of poetry and promises, 35 fricken pages in PDF trying to lure me again. Thanks for the great insight, Its been three painful years breaking up from an extremely abusive relationship. First and foremost, since youre a Catholic, gather up strength and start praying to god to see this through for both you and your son. No one hates himself more than a narcissist. Nobody will ever get him for real. Btw any man should have equalizer rights over his own children. You can spend a lifetime trying to decipher their actions. Mine was trying to hoover me back in- I had to ignore and block him to not fall into his trap again. This tendency to lose interest in the partner also explained why they had less negative emotional reactions. it takes TIME but its TOTALLY DOABLE. 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